Do-less
It's not a word, really. Do-less, or perhaps doless, but that doesn't look right. Every once in a while, years ago, my mom would write in her letter to me that she was feeling do-less today. She didn't know why, just a vague sense of not wanting to do anything. Do-less.
I've had days like that but today isn't one of those days. It's pretty much the opposite. I have so many things I want to do that I don't know where to start. While I'm working one thing, I keep thinking I should be doing another thing.
I've taken care of a couple of important tasks this morning but there are many tasks crowding my time, each yelling, "Me first!" So what do I do instead of working in the yard before it rains, or sewing the button on, or any one of several other things? I sit down and write about it. It helps me get my head straight!
Now I can get up and DO!
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NJ
at 3/30/2004 12:01:18 PM- Did you take the blog too seriously, maybe. How's that. I know what you're getting at and yes, it can be a problem. With me this morning, I was thinking of priorities, which should be done first, and writing about it did help me think it out. I went outside and put in a little more than an hour in raking and clearing out flower beds. And I feel great about getting that much more done. Now it's raining, so if I'd waited till afternoon, I'd not do any yard work, so the should was OK for today. Maybe need is a better word. When you find the author of the book, please let me know. I should, no let's use another word, might, look into it. teehee
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MarsSoup
at 3/30/2004 5:03:40 PM- Found it... the author is Dr. David D. Burns and the pocket-size book is $7.99 on Amazon.com. There is a newer edition, but the only difference I saw when I compared them at Barnes 'n Noble was the price and the actual size of the book (there didn't appear to be any different information since the first paragraphs of various pages I checked matched each other.) So I bought the cheaper one. =)
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NJ
at 3/30/2004 9:43:28 PM- Dr. David Burns, and the book is Feeling Good. I've made a note of it. I'll ask for it at our public library and see if they can get it for me. Thanks.
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There's a book I'm reading that hits on the word "should" pretty hard, as it can lead to a sense of feeling unproductive and for some, even depression. The book, "Feeling Good" (the author has escaped my memory), suggests deleting the word "should" from one's vocabulary altogether and putting in its place "need" for what will ultimately get done anyway, and "want" for what we desire to do. If you do the things you want to, as they need to be done, you won't get down on yourself so much. Perhaps you don't really have this difficulty as I do, though. I tend to get down on myself for what I "should" be doing so much that I feel guilty for sitting on the couch in the evenings after work. There is no reason for guilt. I just need to decide what will be done and when so that I can legitimately sit and relax... almost like on a schedule. So, did I take your blog entry way too seriously? hehehehe.